Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without Hope and Confidence~ Heller Keller
Studies have shown that self-confident people are more successful in all areas of life. And successful people have a high level of self-confidence.
However, being confident is not easy especially when you have always considered yourself as an introvert. Up until I finished college I was always this shy, reserved girl who couldn’t look anyone in the eye, or air her opinion because I was too afraid. Too afraid of being judged or being wrong.
Then I got out of college a fresh graduate. I had to get a job to fend for myself and fulfill my needs
So I had to learn to be someone else, a confident person, an extrovert. I had to be convincing, to sale my skills in a way that shows just how useful I can be.
Getting out of my comfort zone wasn’t so easy, but with time I found myself starting conversations with strangers, making friends and approaching accomplished people during in big events.
Reasons why you need to be More Confident;
- Confidence is more attractive than good looks.
- With confidence you will rebound better after failure.
- You will also be more persistent in the face of obstacles.
- Confidence in your skills and capabilities will make you approach difficult tasks as challenges to be dealt with rather than as threats to be avoided.
- Confident people set themselves challenging goals and maintain a strong commitment to them.
- You will have a positive outlook which will produce personal accomplishments, reduce stress and lower the risk of depression.
#1.Stop comparing yourself to others.
If you have to do this, then do it across the board. If she is more good looking, then you might be smarter. You never know,but since you dont have all the facts,spare yourself the trouble.
#2.Change your Beliefs
How you see yourself often manifests in how you react to other people’s actions towards you. You really don’t need to second guess yourself. No one thinks you are inferior or you have bad taste in fashion, it’s just you. See the best in your self.
#3.Practice and Impress your subconscious mind
Create a mental picture of you as a more confident person. I do this while preparing for an interview the day before. I see myself maintaining eye contact, with a firm voice and a straight sitting posture, I even do it in the mirror. So Practice, practice, practice. It always works.
#4.Write down your positive traits
Are your kind? Generous? Honest? Or a good listener? Write down these great attributes this is what makes you awesome. And don’t forget to remind yourself each time you are in front of other people who make you look inferior.
#5.Understand that other people are just as human as you are
No one is special. They maybe more accomplished but they have made mistakes too, they have failed, they have been rejected or disappointed before. They may even have been where you are before so they totally understand. You don’t need to be perfect.
#6. Stop being a people pleaser
Its really hard to please everyone,moreover trying to makes you really unattractive. What someone else thinks is sorely there business,stop trying too hard.You got this.
#7.Change what you can
If you feel that you have gained some weight and you dont like it,then try loosing it.Eat healthy
exercise regularly and drink plenty of water.
If you feel that you lack some skills that others have then by all means acquire those skills.
Just dont forget to accept that which you cant change, like the fact that you are too short or too tall.I mean just embrace it,accept it and love yourself.
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